When I was very young, I listened to stories on records - LPs, Licorice Pizza, you know the black round discs – over and over again. I can still hear Merlin’s sing-song voice taunting, “I’m gaaaone……. And then I am not gone!” as he battled Mad Madam Mim in a magical duel. At that point, he’d made himself invisible. The line kinda reflects me too. I am in this world but not of it. I spend much of my time alone and often in nature. On rare occasion, I spend time with people, in brief interludes, but then I return to my solitude. I do not live in the world most people do. I do not subscribe to the beliefs and experiences most people have. That is not my reality. Yes, this is totally by choice – I will choose free will! Some would say I am an ostrich with my head in the sand pretending. Just to clarify…..it is actually my toes
Black Diamond Sand in Hawaii |
I love this quote from Alan Cohen. “Wouldn't it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out.” So many humans have been taught and treated the opposite of this sentiment which is part of the reason much of the world is currently the way it is. If more people loved themselves and treated themselves with respect, it would be A Whole New World. A person who loves and respects themselves will automatically love and respect others. Then again, don’t confuse love and respect for doing whatever others want. It is not anyone else’s job to make you happy (or for you to make them happy). That is an inside job.
Art by Daniel Holeman |
On a related note, regarding the benefits of solitude – people’s energetic presence can be powerfully positive or just as powerfully negative. Just ask any empath you know. Some people aren’t even aware of their own empathic tendencies. Sometimes they feel, after being around certain individuals - they feel uplifted or they feel drained. That’s empathically relating to, or absorbing, others' energy. There are ways to minimize that for sensitive souls that are overwhelmed by this. One way is to maintain the individually appropriate balance between being out with others and time spent in one’s own company.
Nikola
Tesla said, “Be alone, that is the secret of invention. Be alone, that is where
ideas are born,” And Albert Einstein, “Be a loner. That gives you time to
wonder, to search for the truth. Have holy curiosity. Make your life worth
living.” I’m not suggesting everyone become hermits – although it certainly may
be appropriate for some. But perhaps, you would benefit from allowing yourself
a bit of solitude here and there. Maybe you are due for a retreat from being
pulled in many worldly directions. A retreat from the demands of your daily
life. A sacred time to reconnect with what and who you are.
You know, from my previous accounts, I am often alone. However, part of my “mission” on Mother Earth IS being with people. Specific people. Special people I have soul connections and contracts with. Among those close to my heart, is an extension of my ohana in Hawaii. I met, or re-met, lovely Lokelani and her two precious daughters, Ruby and Lily, in 2017. I thought I was going to be assisting another family when a strange turn of events brought us blessedly together. And now, Ruby has a huge opportunity to follow her dreams in a special summer camp in Florida. Of course, her mom and sister would travel with her. That will require a significant amount of money. This opportunity would really make a huge, positive difference for all of them. If you feel so inspired, please support as you can via https://gofund.me/7067faa5 Mahalo!
You may
wonder why Ruby’s picture is at the top of this post. The short answer is
technological reasons. When I share this post, it automatically features
whatever the first picture is I’ve included. I used to be able to choose but
not anymore. There might be another way of putting up the photo I’d like but,
at the moment, I do not have the technological savvy. Still a bit uncertain too
with the mailchimp platform. It didn’t “like” a number of the emails
transferred and just decided not to include them. It wasn't able to "successfully deliver" dozens. Also, in the past I’d get a "please remove" request once in a blue moon. Immediately after the initial send
from mailchimp, 6 recipients unsubscribed. Maybe they didn’t recognize me
coming from a new platform. I don’t know but it brings me back to TRUST!
Trusting I will be guided to continue if my musings are helpful to others.
Trusting each message will reach the right people at the right time. Trusting
there is a higher purpose for everything and things are not always as they
seem.
Thanks so much for being part of this interesting journey with me! Abundant blessings in your world too 💖